So, I’ve been told since I can remember that you should NEVER base relationships off of tingly happy feelings, because at times, they won’t be there.
I am really learning this lately, the hardship and also the value.
My boyfriend was really confused, because this isn’t something we go through often. And began to question our relationship, which then made me question it.. Will this empty feeling go away? Will I have that happy tingly feeling again? Or is this just how it is now?
The truth is, butterflies are AWESOME. When you get that feeling in your stomach that tickles and stirs all the way up into your smile.. it’s something else. But that is an emotion, not a relationship. Love is so much more than an emotion.. take a look at the bible…
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, is not selfish, and does not get upset with others. Love does not count up wrongs that have been done. Love takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices over the truth. Love patiently accepts all things. It always trusts, always hopes, and always endures. Love never ends. - 1 Corinthians 13
Key part I’m focusing on right now: “Love always endures”. Always. If you really love someone, you’re going to stand by them no matter what circumstance.. because all you know is that you want to be with them. You’re not using them only for the happy feeling, but for a lifelong, trusting, humble relationship.
I love my boyfriend. LOVE him. I know I want to be there beside him through every part of life, no matter how I feel. Yes, he bugs me sometimes! He can be absurd, cocky, stressful and stubborn. But who doesn’t have their quirks? And I chose to look past them and see the big mushy sweetheart inside that will always be there for me no matter what.
Even when the butterflies are taking a nap. <3